This is the time of year that each of us seems to take stock and try to take a look at our lives. We make ourselves a seemingly endless list of resolutions from losing weight to beginning massive self improvement renovations. These ideas relentlessly swirl around our heads like laundry in the spin cycle.
Some people think this is a good time for a Tarot reading. I absolutely agree. I always tell everybody, “Your life does not have to be a Train Wreck to Need a Tarot Tune-Up!” If you’re ready to make some changes and jump start your life a tarot reading is just the vehicle to get some fresh perspective! Here are some surefire tips that you need to be armed with!
If you have never had an in person Tarot reading you must be aware of this.
Tarot readings in real life are vastly different than those on TV. On television programs and infomercials you get to see wonderful revelations, marvelous reunions, and amazing messages from the Spirit world, from beyond the grave.
Rarely in those readings do you see the people share truly heartbreaking stories, you do not get to witness their pain, anguish and confusion. Some have just lost a spouse, or found out they have cancer, or their spouse just ran out on them leaving them pregnant with 3 kids to raise alone and without any resources.
You will not see the Tarot Reader touch their hand or offer tissue.
More often than you would think empathetic readers sometimes attempt to hold back some tears as they try to maintain professionalism, many tarot readers have genuine compassion and concern for each and every client.
Miraculously, in the real life settings this is all achieved without the distraction of commercials for feminine hygiene products, exercise equipment, or emergency rescue products designed to scare vulnerable senior citizens into purchasing their products. Alas they often miss out on the tidy happily ever after storybook.
As with any purchase or investment it is imperative to be armed with good information and a plan before you spend your valuable resources. Here are some tips that will help you navigate around hype, smoke and mirrors and find the resources require.
Do your homework first and ask for references.
You can ask your friends. If you go to a specific place for a reading, and you are respectful when you ask, any reputable reader they will not mind you asking for a reference. Understand that this is an interview and you are only asking questions that you would ask of anyone who provides a service for you. They are the same things you would ask of your surgeon, carpenter or mechanic. Your reader may be new in terms of reading professionally or perhaps new to the area and they may not be able to give you a list of people to call – but they will not mind your asking. If they become defensive take note.
Ask if they operate by a specific code of ethics, and do not be intimidated to ask what they are.
It is essential that you know this. When you decide to make yourself vulnerable and transparent it is something sacred and special, any ethical reader does not treat that lightly and will treat you with dignity, compassion and respect. But consider for a moment: you would not go to your beautician for a face lift. Don’t go to your Tarot Reader and expect them to perform medical and legal services.
You should at all times be treated without judgment, shame or be pressured, and your reading should be explicitly confidential. (* unless you are threatening yourself or planning to harm someone else then sorry cupcake than all bets are off.) NOTE: if you would like to see what a printed code of ethics looks like and what the main points you should look for my email is at the end of this article. Contact me and I would be very happy to send you a copy.
Have realistic expectations.
Chances are the matters at hand that that necessitated a reading did not happen overnight. Do not expect to have everything perfectly resolved by the end of your reading. That being said, it is not an unrealistic expectation to have perspective, clarity, a specific plan of action, direction and purpose.
Ask if there are any issues the tarot reader will not address.
Some readers will not address specific subjects such as death, or health issues. This is important information to have before you commit to a reading and take out your check book.
Be clear on the specific services that your reader offers. Be clear on what their prices are and the prices of additional add on services before agree.
Many readers provide a variety services, ranging from Palmistry to Past Life Regression. These services are often offered in a tiered menu form and they may or may not be of great value to you. These services can increase how much you spend in the end, be aware so you are not surprised.
Don’t play, “Stump the Tarot Reader”.
Consider this: look at all the information you have gathered already. What you have learned so far should give you ample information you need determine if this reader is a great match for you or not. So please do not play try to stump the reader. It insults them and makes you look foolish. Reputable Readers work very hard to continue their education with classes, seminars, workshops and other means of study to stay sharp. They also do it so they can offer new services to you. Many have families and full time jobs as well. Aside from this, they work very hard to provide a personal service to you with character and integrity. You do not have time to play these games especially if you are paying by the minute. It is best to make the most of the valuable time you are spending with your tarot professional.
Have a specific question or area of concern in mind when you ask your question.
The cards mean different things for different questions. If your question is “How does my boyfriend really feel about me? But you say just “a general reading”, or “what ever comes up”, you are not going to get the most accurate reading that you could have. Even if it is something very personal you should at least be willing to say the area of concern like; romance or work.
Use care in how you ask your question?
You may ask, “When am I going to find love?” or “When will I get a bunch of money? However consider this. If you ask “How can I bring love into my life?” or “How can I make my new business a success?” or “What important things am I missing that need my attention?” You are more invested in the process. You are involved and you are taking ownership and responsibility for your life. If you only do this much I promise you are going to get answers that are more targeted and specific to your needs and concerns.
Don’t be afraid to converse during your reading.
Conversation sometimes helps the reader be clear that they are conveying their information to you in a way that makes sense to you. It is not a ploy to fish for more information. They are trying to make the most of the limited time you have together to give you the most accurate, targeted information.
If you have “secrets” that you do not want others to know about – do not bring your spouse or best friend into your reading with you.
If you’re having a secret affair, embezzling from your job or have other “skeletons in your closet” it is perhaps not the best time to invite your best friend or spouse into your reading. There is a huge probability it will show up in the cards.
Ask if the reading will be recorded or if you need to take notes. Some, not all readers allow recording and some provide the tapes. Some are not comfortable with you taping your reading and may provide you with materials to take notes. If you would like to bring a friend along to take notes make sure you ask the reader first.
If the news you hear is not what you like or expected, don’t assume it was a bad reading.
There are many components that make for a good or bad reading. You will do yourself a disservice if you dismiss the value of a reading just because you didn’t like the answer you were given.
Sometimes the cards will say your lover is not coming back. They may also say your business is not doing well and you may need to make adjustment and accommodations. The cards are just a tool. They are not a magic lamp with a genie inside waiting to grant our every wish. There is a temptation to ask the same question over and over again until we hear what we want. If this is the case, you are wasting a lot of your time and resources and “tarot help” is not the kind of help you need.
Don’t give up your free will by asking a reader what to do.
Asking advice and asking someone to tell you what to do are two very different things. No matter what the cards say you are in charge of your life. If the reader is too quick to tell you what to do and offer the components like additional spells, candles and ritual work, take note. It is not their responsibility to “fix” a situation or problem. That responsibility is, and always will belong to you. An ethical reader never wants you to become dependant on them. A tarot reading is a valuable tool used to give you perspective and to give you information and resources. You get to be the architect.
Don’t ask about things that are not your business.
Unless it is about you – or you are part of the solution, it is best to leave those questions alone. If you must ask then restrict yourself to only asking what you can do, how you can bring change for the highest good of all parties.
Ask if the Reader offers gift certificates.
This is a wonderful resource and so often overlooked! Some people are difficult to buy for, a tarot reading is a wonderful gift for the person who has everything, or who is difficult to buy for. They make great gifts for those celebrating an engagement, a baby shower, an anniversary, a birthday, or a wonderful Christmas gift!!
If something feels “off” or wrong listen to your intuition.
That is your heart and soul speaking to you; it will not lie to you.
If you are told you are under a curse, or the reader is losing their “psychic connection” and needs more money to continue take note.
If you are happy with your reading tell your friends. If your not tell your reader.
Your tarot reader is there to help you. If you are having difficulty connecting or are uncomfortable tell them. Sometimes people are not a match. That is just a fact of life. If it is not a match please do not be like the client who goes to the salon for a make over and tells the hair dresser they love it – even though they hate it. Don’t race home and wreck a person’s reputation, character, and confidence by telling everyone you know that the hairdresser ruined your life! …you’ve almost lost the will to live, you cannot even leave the house in disguise to go to your grandmother’s funeral – and you feel like the hairdresser just ran over your only working kidney with their car on purpose… just to be vicious with forethought and malice… to single handedly destroy your life because they were bored.
Lastly Remember open your heart and mind, have fun and get some fresh new perspective!
You have a wonderful opportunity to find some direction, perspective, wonderful ideas and empowerment! Now you can really make the changes in your life and begin to manifesting your dreams.
Published in Attune Magazine 2013